Jade's Transgender Journey

  ASSUME NOTHING Since my transitioning, I have learned many things, some good, some not so much.  Perhaps, the biggest challenge has been the Assumptions made by so many.  Some Assume I "want" to be a woman,  some Assume my transitioning is about sex, some Assume that my sexual orientation has changed, and some Assume I am a different person.  What I have recently discovered is what I believe is the most important, I to have been Assuming.  I have Assumed "everyone" would hate me for my transitioning.  I have Assumed my community would not accept me, and so much more.  Even though some may not accept me, most Assumptions are Not True.  When we Assume, we put up walls, which effects both sides.  So what is better, Live in Fear, or Live in Peace?  I chose Peace. Hugs, Jade

 Since I have been living as a transgender person, there is one definite myth by many about transgender people which is the biggest by far. For those who are not educated on the topic of transgender, oftentimes resulting in them being transphobic, usually believe transgender transitioning is all about sex.  However, this is so far from the truth; and it amazes me on how some people can take someone's health and personal peace issues and pervert them to justify their phobias and mistreatment of others.  Perhaps, it is because that is human nature for things that are different, to be afraid and to act out.  In fact, I have had multiple ex-girlfriends state that I could not be transgender because I am not gay.  Well, they are partially correct, I am not gay; but why should that matter?  Also, they are exes for a reason, they never knew me for who I really am.  Another thing many people want to know is, "how do you and your wife have sex?  What??...

      Since I disclosed my authentic self to the world, I have received more support than I could imagine. However, I have also faced some Transphobic people as well.  Even though the positive people in my life dwarf the negative ones in comparison, the few negative experiences can be very disappointing, even hurtful at times. Like all of my posts, I hope this one will help teach awareness on how difficult it can be in being transgender.      Last month, I had to go to court so I could get my name and gender marker legally changed. During that time, I had to testify on how I have been bullied, harassed and discriminated because of being transgender. Even though testifying was very difficult, it was also liberating, especially considering that I won the motion. Unfortunately, the novelty of that victory is only felt for a short time. The reality is, there will always be some people who will never except me for being me.  So far, I have had family m...