The Biggest Myth of Transgender, Where the Pain is - Post #24

 Since I have been living as a transgender person, there is one definite myth by many about transgender people which is the biggest by far. For those who are not educated on the topic of transgender, oftentimes resulting in them being transphobic, usually believe transgender transitioning is all about sex.  However, this is so far from the truth; and it amazes me on how some people can take someone's health and personal peace issues and pervert them to justify their phobias and mistreatment of others.  Perhaps, it is because that is human nature for things that are different, to be afraid and to act out.  In fact, I have had multiple ex-girlfriends state that I could not be transgender because I am not gay.  Well, they are partially correct, I am not gay; but why should that matter?  Also, they are exes for a reason, they never knew me for who I really am.  Another thing many people want to know is, "how do you and your wife have sex?  What??  Answer: None of your business.  I would never ask that questions to a cisgender person.  However, considering that it weights on this post, transitioning rarely has to do with sexual orientation and activity.  In fact, most people who transition has little to no sexual activity because of the hormone replacement therapy and surgeries.  Plus, it is a challenge for many people to find real love, as one can imagine. So, why do we transition?  The "real" answer is for peace in ones being.  It is about looking in the mirror and being happy for who we are, and nothing to do with what others think or believe of us.  It is having the courage to go against the pressures of life and acceptance, and chose to be happy as a person.  This is not to say we do not care about what others think of us, but rather placing our peace above others negative opinions.  By far, transitioning has been the most scariest personal journey I have even gone on, but it has also been the most rewarding.  The support and love I have received by so many has been overwhelming sometimes.  Unfortunately, because of being an "outcast" by many, many transgender people turn away from their faith, and turn to less productive lifestyles, such as drugs and the adult entertainment industry.  Since I have started this blog, I have spoken to countless other transgender people and our stories are the same, so many assumptions by others and it is heartbreaking. Just maybe there will be a day that we all can just respect and love each other for who we are.

Hugs,

Jade

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