Friendly Advice for Parents - Post 50

 Friendly Advice for Parents



"My child is transgender, now what?"

As a parent, I believe I can imagine what most parents may think or even feel when discovering their child being transgender.  If you were brought up like I was, you may be conservative or have conservative concerns. I am familiar with how religious beliefs or even basic biology knowledge dictate how some view the topic.  It is not my intention to say who is right or who is wrong; but I would like to ask if you are struggling with such issues, please ask yourself if you love your child.  If love comes to your heart first, not only do I believe you can overcome these issues, but also discover a very special relationship between you and your child that you cannot even imagine.  

I remember growing up wanting to be physically who I was inside; but because of my conservative upbringing, that was not an option.  I remember hearing my father explain on many occasions that he wanted a daughter, while my heart was screaming, "I am right here".  I can only imagine what our relationship could have been like.  Even though it was rough, I realize that he was only doing what he thought was right.  Now, many decades later, those early days are gone and a lot of mean words have been said.  It is most likely too late for me to have a relationship with my biological father, but it may not be too late if you are facing a similar situation.  There is nothing more influential to a person than how their parents feel about them.  Most people would rather suffer all their life than to disappoint their family.  I did try that for almost 50 years, but I had a choice, try to cut back on my anxieties in hopes to stop my seizures, or work on my final arrangements. So, I made the hardest decision of my life, to live, and to respect my family's wishes, love them from afar.  

My only hope in sharing this is, if you have a child of any age who is facing being transgender, I wish for you to know they are someone special.  Not only will your unconditional love be priceless for them, but you may be Blessed with the same if you give it a chance.  

I wish you all a Happy and Peaceful Life.

Love,
Jade

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