Is it Safe yet? - Post #48

Is it Safe yet?

     It has been a few months since my last blog.  With the holidays, new year and basic life stuff, I have been busy learning more and more about my authentic self.  I have discovered that a lot of my historical behavior, which I thought was just part of my personality, was largely influenced by basic social programming / expectations.  How I reacted to situations, how I acted as a person, and even to the movies I liked, all were representations of what I believed was expected of me. Now, with a strong support system and much needed medical treatment, what I was afraid of, is no longer scary.  I'm learning what I really like, and what I used to pretend I liked.  With this part of my journey, I have discovered the courage to live my life totally as myself without a 2nd thought.  I used to be afraid to just walk outside and worry about what my neighbors might think.   For the most part, I no longer worry about that.  Now, that I crave to expand my social activities, I need to ask one question, "Is it safe yet?" Imagine every time you went out, you had to wonder if you would be safe from physical or emotional harm.  Most of us have always taken some security measures in what we do and where we go.  However, do you worry about if your doctors are going to discriminate against you?  Do you have to know where it is safe to use public restrooms, knowing there are people out there who will harass you because of their lack of education and empathy? Is it safe to go out in the community?  Is it safe to go to the store or restaurant?  Because of where our society is currently at in accepting Transgender people, this is where I am at in my journey.  Those who know me personally have heard me ask, "Am I safe there?"  This has included doctors, hospitals, restaurants, social gatherings, and associates of friends.  It seems that most transgender people wonder the same thing when they wake up, "Is it safe yet"?

I pray for that day, the day we all can feel safe in being who we are, and where we go. 

For all those people who live a life of fear, Big Hugs

Love,

Jade

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