It Is Okay To Cry, Post #34

    Who is familiar with the phrase, "Crying is a sign of weakness"?  Personally, this is a phrase that I am far to familiar with.  Looking back during my adolescent years, I remember being a very emotional person.  With now having a better understanding as a transgender person, I believe in having those emotions back then makes more sense.  Unfortunately, with heart ache after ache, those feelings turned into frustration, which turned into resentment, which turned into a callused heart.  After all, "men do not cry", which was a large part of my social upbringing.  I do not believe anyone had malicious intent in trying to make me a "better man"; but little did they know there was more to the story, which was "Not open to discussion".  I can hear that phrase being scolded to me over and over again, "End of discussion!".  I cannot help but wonder, if others knew who I really was, and if they knew what transgender really is, would I have been treated a little better?  With that fact, I find myself fighting back the tears.  Fortunately, HRT has been helping me a lot in balancing my emotions and my tears.  Instead of fighting back the tears, I now give myself permission to let those feelings go.  Even the painful tears feel better; but of course the Happy Tears are my favorite.  In other words, I am discovering a new level of peace, which is such a huge Blessing.  So, if I could give advice to anyone similar to me, please do not be afraid to cry.  Crying is a safety valve for the overflow of our emotions, not something we should be ashamed of. 

So, please do not be afraid to cry.  Life is to short not to understand that it is okay to cry.  Plus, the Happy Tears are the Best.

Love and Hugs,
Jade 

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